“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ” (NIV).
As a single female with a child, I often felt as if I did not fit in society. I felt as if I was left out of couple activities or activities with my friends who were single with no kids. It seemed as everyone was living their lives to the fullest by going on vacations or having dinner with friends. However, a theme park or a trip to a restaurant with a playground was adventurous weekend for me.
Being lonely would lead to emotional shopping (USING CREDIT CARDS) to attempt to ease the pain of loneliness or the pain of being validated as a person. I would purchase items to seek the approval of others. I wanted to “fit in” badly. I would spend money I did not have or waste valuable time worrying about what others thought about me.
Then one day in 2007 the Lord spoke to me as I was on an emotional shopping binge. He spoke with a small still voice and said “You do not need validation from anyone. You are mine and that’s all that matter.” It was then I realized I am His child and nothing else matters.
I don’t need a designer handbag, a new car every year, a pair of designer shoes, or a lot of people around me to validate who I am or whose I am. It was that day I decided to quit worrying about what people said or thought about me.
I learned that seeking validation or approval from other people causes you to spend money they do not have, spending money you could be saving, and lose sight of being thankful for what God has done in your life. Stop trying to keep up “with the Joneses” and be who God created you to be. The scripture says, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour” (NIV. 1st Peter 5:8). Seeking approval or validation from man can cause calamity and strife in your life. You don’t need validation because Jesus validated you a long time ago when he hung on the cross for you!
I am so glad you paid the price for me on Calvary and I don’t need anyone else to validate me. I am your child and that’s all that matter.
In Jesus Name,
Copyrighted 2015 by Edwina D. Perrin. All rights reserved.